Chapter 46 - 46: The Admired Capital
“A man who seems unimpressive doesn’t necessarily mean he’s a bad one, don’t fall for the wrong kind of man.”
“When judging a man, don’t just focus on his looks, but pay attention to his temperament, values, and not whether he has money or not, but what his expectations are regarding material wealth.”
“In short, a man with ambition will eventually stand out, but a wealthy man is not necessarily a true gentleman. Some rich second generation men are playboys, they like to play with other people’s feelings just because they have money.”
“If your partner is ambitious but not yet very successful, as long as he passes your brother’s test and is deemed to be a man you can trust for a lifetime, your brother will surely help him.”
“Money is not as important to him as you are, you see, he doesn’t even have the mood to show off.” Suri Drew said.
Suri Drew said all these to Sana Woods because she was worried that Sana just arrived in a big city and would not be able to resist temptation and end up regretting her decisions.
So, she used her own experiences to tell Sana what kind of men are worth trusting and what kind of men are insincere.
“Your sister-in-law is speaking from a woman’s perspective; I’m a man, so let me say a few words, too. Listen carefully, sis.” This time, Yigol Novak also spoke.
“Sure, brother. You can speak.” Sana Woods nodded seriously.
If it were a while ago, Sana would never have been willing to listen to Yigol’s nagging, but now it’s different. She admires her big brother Yigol, such an outstanding man, he has the right to be admired.
Yigol Novak went on to say, “I’m only stating my thoughts; whether or not you’re willing to listen is up to you.”
“I think, when judging whether a man is worth entrusting your life to, in addition to what your sister-in-law said, it is important to see if he has you in his heart. ”
“Let me give you an example: If you have two men pursuing you, one is only interested in novelty and most of the time only cares about himself, while the other always puts you first, you should know how to choose, right?”
Sana Woods thought for a while and replied, “Naturally, I don’t want the first one. But, isn’t it okay to have our own space?”
Yigol Novak shook his head in disapproval: “You’re wrong. If a man truly loves you, you’re everything to him, and he doesn’t need any personal space. What is a woman’s greatest happiness?”
“Huh?” Sana Woods looked confused.
“In my opinion, it is to have a man who can be shown off, who has the ability to make you proud. If a man is only busying himself with his own affairs and prioritizing himself, that’s simply because he loves himself more. Such a man is not worth entrusting with your life.”
“A man who truly cares for you will always prioritize your needs and feelings. As long as you need him, he’ll be there for you anytime. On the other hand, if you’re sick or feeling down, he’ll be busy with his own affairs or simply think you’re annoying and won’t want to take care of you.
“There’s a saying that makes a lot of sense: sweet-talking is just talk.”
“Those men who only love themselves are more suited to women who only love themselves, in other words, women who love money and are vain.”
“Actually, men’s and women’s thoughts often diverge.”
“Men will only want what they need – for example, they’ll only buy things when they need them.”
“It’s different for women: they might buy something just because it looks nice, and some even think that even if they can’t afford it, they’ll just window shop.”
“Some women are smart; they prefer to be with men who love them rather than ones they love, because men will only commit to who they like.”
“But being blindly nice, having no ambition, or not pursuing your aspirations is also no good.”
After listening to this, Sana Woods thought for a moment and said, “Brother, what you said makes sense. However, shouldn’t a man focus on his career? And isn’t there a saying that behind every successful man, there’s a woman who supports him? Choosing a career-oriented man means having to endure loneliness.”
Yigol Novak replied, “As I said, it’s up to you whether or not you want to listen. I’m just telling you my thoughts. Everyone has their own judgment. Different judgments lead to different choices, which lead to different destinies.”
“But there’s one thing that’s very important to you now — you need to have the capital. ”
Yigol Novak thought for a moment and continued, “A woman’s capital is not just her appearance – no matter how beautiful she is, she will eventually age and look less appealing. External beauty can easily bore people over time.”
“A person’s charm is internal — it’s their upbringing, their abilities. A girl’s greatest confidence lies in being able to leave at any time, in any situation.”
Sana Woods understood Yigol Novak’s meaning and retorted, “In this day and age, as long as a person is healthy and able to work wholeheartedly, regardless of what they do, they won’t starve to death.”
Sana Woods was originally rebellious and didn’t accept anyone’s guidance, so when Yigol lectured her, she instinctively became defensive.
“That’s true – the world is so vast, and the gap between people is also huge. People with annual incomes of 10 million dollars or even a hundred million dollars can survive, as can people with a monthly income of two thousand or even a few hundred dollars.”
“But the reason for these disparities lies in the differences in individual abilities, pursuits, and ways of thinking.”
“If you can live a glamorous life, why let yourself live in dire straits? It’s just like what we were discussing earlier about choosing a partner.”
“If you don’t have much ability, chances are the people around you won’t either. What kind of partner will you end up with? Can you understand what I’m saying?”
“Also, the future is unknown. Whether the person you’re marrying is good or bad is unclear, and the world is full of terrible men. If you do end up marrying and things become unbearable, what will you do?”
“Do you have the courage and the means to leave? If there are no children involved, that’s easier to manage, but what if there are children? Do you have the ability to support yourself? Do you have the ability to support your children?”
“If you’re capable, meeting a good man is naturally the best outcome. But if you encounter a bad man, you can leave him at any time. Your personal ability is your biggest asset.”
“I have my hands, I can work, why couldn’t I survive?” Sana Woods argued back.
Yigol Novak smiled indifferently, “Alright then, hand over your cellphone for me to keep, and you don’t use it for a while.”
“Why?” Sana Woods hurriedly clutched her cellphone tightly..”